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was just 17 when I was referred to The Haven, as a high-risk case of sexual violence. I had reported that my ex-boyfriend, Sam, had raped me and filmed me without my consent. He also had compromising images on his phone, which he threatened to post online if I ever left him. When I shared this information with the police, an investigation began, revealing Sam to be a serial perpetrator who had abused his own mother and grandmother.
At first, I wanted to withdraw my statement, as the process was overwhelming, and I just wanted to move on with my life. However, after learning about the support The Haven could offer, I decided to continue with the criminal case. Eventually, Sam was arrested.
I then started counselling at The Haven, as my support from Base 25 was coming to an end. I engaged well with my counsellor, and we covered topics like recognising abuse, healthy relationships, online safety, grooming, and more. The Haven’s Independent Sexual Violence Advisor also discussed future relationships and warning signs to look out for. She also told me all about Claire’s Law. Claire’s Law is a policy introduced in the UK in 2014, allowing individuals to request information from the police about their partner’s potential history of domestic violence or abuse. This law, also known as the Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme (DVDS), aims to provide people with the necessary information to make informed decisions about their relationships and protect themselves from potential harm.
As we delved deeper into my experiences, I disclosed more abuse from Sam, like physical beatings, and having hot drinks poured over me. The Haven encouraged me to share this new information with the police during a check-in call.
When Sam’s bail ended, he was released pending further investigation, while both our phones were kept for forensic evidence. Feeling nervous about going to school and leaving my home, The Haven supported me in applying for a non-molestation order against Sam, which was served a month later. I’m now waiting for a virtual court date.
The support from The Haven has been vital throughout this process. They’ve helped me prepare for court and made me feel comfortable with my solicitor. As I continue my studies in sixth form, with plans to go to university, my school is aware of my situation but respects my privacy. Going to school has become a welcome break for me, and I’m grateful that I can attend safely.
The Haven’s Independent Sexual Violence Advisor will continue supporting me until the non-molestation order is final. They’ll also help me through the police investigation and potentially the criminal court case, should the Crown Prosecution Service decide to prosecute. With their ongoing support, I feel more secure and hopeful for the future.
Annie’s name has been changed to protect her identity. Images are for illustration purposes only.
